Saturday, December 20, 2014


Many people experience an increase in stress around the Holidays. Here are some tips that I find useful. You might find them useful too.  BTW you may use these tips anytime of year. :) 

Tip # 1:  BREATHE

The fastest remedy for a stressful situation is to modify the simple task of Breathing. 
Stress causes shallow, fast paced, chest breathing -- which creates an anxiety (fight or flight) response in the body.  
You can reduce this by consciously taking three (3) deep, slow, belly breaths. 
Try it now! 
Notice how you are feeling in the moment, now take three deep, slow breaths, feel your belly fill as you inhale, feel it empty as you exhale, on the last breath let out an audible "SIGH".  Now, how do you feel?

Tip # 2:   MEDITATE

Meditation has been shown to quiet the mind, relax the body, reduce blood pressure and re-focus your concentration.
Try it now! 
Sit comfortably (hopefully in a quiet, uninterrupted space), do your Breathing Exercise, take three deep, full breaths, letting the last one out with a "sigh".  Let your eyes close, and bring your attention to your breath, simply observe the breath as it goes in and out, if your mind starts to wander to other thoughts, gently bring your attention back to the breath.  This is called Mindfulness Meditation, and can be done for as short as one minute to up to 20 min.  If you want to add a Mantra (sound) to the meditation, you can repeat silently in your mind the Sound of Breath, "So Hum". With each inhale think "So" and with each exhale "Hum" continue for 5-20 min. and see how calm, centered and focused the Meditation leaves you.

Tip # 3:   MOVE IT!

Sitting for too long at your desk is a major cause of aches and pains.  Get up and move your body, whether it is a walk to the restroom, or to refill your water bottle, or to just stand up and STRETCH, to go for a walk or a run at lunch, whatever you like to do, just do it.  Every hour if you can, put on an alarm that will remind you to take a movement break.  Movement keeps your circulation going, prevents edema in the feet and legs, lubricates the joints and relieves stiffness.
Try it now! 
Stand up, take in a big breath and raise your arms above your head, stretch towards the sky, now let them gently fall to your sides as you exhale.  Try it three times. 


An attitude of Gratitude has been shown to relieve stress and alter negative or depressed thinking.  
Try it now!
Take out a piece of paper and write a quick Gratitude list for the year, add in all of your accomplishments, then a list of the people in your life that you are thankful for. Call or email one of those people right now and let them know how much you appreciate having them in your life.

Tip # 5: Take ME time!

The holidays are filled with giving, time, gifts, energy to others.  As you give, give, give, don't forget yourself.  Honor yourself with the gift of some down time, some ME time, some time to: Take a Hot Bath, Be in Nature, Take a Walk, Get a Massage, whatever it is that replenishes you.  If you don't take care of yourself, you will have nothing to give to others. Plan it, schedule it, block time for it.  DO IT NOW!

To schedule an appointment give me a call 916-342-1756. 

Thursday, October 23, 2014


Some of you may have already heard, but I need to move ASAP! I know I know, I just did this a little over a year ago... but I don't really have a choice because the management at my current location is not happy with me having so many guests over for healing treatments or other various events. 
I am relocation to a place where this will not be an issue; to a larger 2 bedroom apartment (just 1 and 1/2 miles away) and I am seeking some help with moving furniture and boxes. 
We will begin around 10 am at my current location, but even if you can not get here that early, we could use some help a little later on at the other end to unload the truck etc. so please give me a call if you are stopping by later and want to know where to find us. I will send the destination address information to those of you who RSVP. 
Please let me know if you are available for either Friday October 31st (to help me with packing up last minute stuff) or Saturday Nov. 1st. which is the main moving day to move furniture, boxes and stuff. I have a truck reserved. If you can help me out on moving day please RSVP.
PS: Temporarily I am using an alternate place for individual massage and healing treatments and will not personally be offering any more meetup events until I am settled in my new place. 
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Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Unpacking My RAT

Dear Friends, Family and Fans!

Now that my daughter is all grown up and has moved out with her beloved into their own apartment, I just wanted to lets you all know that I have moved as well!!! It was high time to down size my space and expenses. I got rid of soooo much stuff. This has been a gigantic purging ordeal for me. Packing up and moving my belongings was only a small fraction of the overall moving picture for me. The biggest part was that I really had to battle with the excess of stuff I had accumulated over the years. (I call this process "unpacking my rat"). After some internal struggles with the practice of non attachment, an exhausting amount of work sorting, selling several items, donating several more, and paying a huge bill to the hard working guys from 1 800 Got Junk for hauling away a little over 2 truck loads of "stuff"... as of the first of October, I have emerged victorious! My new location, for home and work, is in the University Heights / Hillcrest area of San Diego. I am "ALMOST" settled in... Still working on unpacking and trying to find places for all the things I kept, but I plan to have an apartment warming party for all my friends very soon. If you want to visit me, or schedule an appointment with me, please feel free to contact me. I am already seeing clients at my new location. 

With Love and Light, Jeanetta

Wednesday, March 20, 2013

50 Shades of Tantra

Hoping to get your pulse racing, your kundalini rising, and your chakras spinning like tops? Not all Tantra is the same. Let’s start by exploring 5 paths of Tantra to get your aura started.  

I imagine that 50 shades is actually a modest estimation. This is increasingly true in this modern age, especially now that Tantra is becoming so popular here in the West. Tantra has been around for thousands of years and continues to evolve as Eastern philosophy meets Western psychology.  Allow me to guide you toward the shade of Tantra that suits you. I will describe 5 paths of Tantra.  Each path is represented by a color. Within these five tantric paths, there are easily 10 variations or shades of interpretation available, which would give you the proverbial 50 shades of Tantra.   

White Tantra is used to describe a spiritual path of Tantra which incorporates meditation, breath work, sounds and postures.  Although all of the major chakras or energy centers are recognized in this practice, it is the upper two chakras; the third eye and the crown chakra, which seem to get all the conscious attention.  These are the energy centers that connect with our intuition and spirituality.  In this culture we tend to equate Tantra with great sex. However, the white path doesn’t really focus on the physical act of sex at all! White Tantra is primarily a solo practice between you and spirit.  Although this is a solo practice, White Tantra does acknowledge relationships as having merit. The various people who come into our lives are said to provide us with a mirror to help us learn and grow.   

Personally, I define Tantra as more of a philosophy than a religion. However, I recognize that there are some people who practice Tantra religiously. Some forms of Tantra have become so intertwined with the beliefs of a specific religion such as; Hinduism, Taoism, or Buddhism that it is difficult to sort out where the religion ends and the Tantra begins.  Within the practice of White Tantra, sexual energy is often re-directed or channeled towards spiritual transformation, creative endeavors, healing, expanded awareness, and what some might refer to as enlightenment.  Sexual activity is not strictly “forbidden” by most of the White Tantra practices; however, quite often followers of White Tantra are influenced by religious teaching that value chastity, sexual abstinence or celibacy.

If you are an individual who is seeking a journey of spiritual enlightenment or a deeper connection with God or spirit, then perhaps white Tantra is for you. Kundalini yoga is a popular practice in this culture that is often categorized as White Tantra.  However, if your reason for exploring tantra is primarily in hopes of learning new ways to improve your sex life, you may be disappointed.   

Red Tantra is a path of Tantra best known for bringing us Tantric Sex. Red Tantra is primarily a practice that you do with your partner. The union between you and your beloved is seen as a form of god and goddess worship that creates not only a bond with your partner but a bridge or connection to the divine god and goddess. You and your partner embody the god and goddess, and when you come together to make love using Tantric Rituals, you join body, heart, mind and spirit. All of the chakras or energy centers of the body are involved in the connection. The intention is to create a piece of heaven on Earth that transcends the physical act of sex. By incorporating Tantric practice into your love life, you can reach not only higher levels of pleasure and connection, but a higher spiritual vibration as well.  

My understanding is that in India, Red Tantra was originally a highly advanced spiritual practice that was only taught to those who had achieved a level of mastery of the White Path of Tantra. Today there are secular forms of Red Tantra in the West that do not require followers to achieve any mastery. The focus of this more secular form of Tantra is primarily on exploring bliss, ecstasy, and all the pleasurable sensations you can achieve during love making. Tantric Sex is now something that couples may explore, with or without the original spiritual intent.  

Red Tantra is known for luxurious love making sessions that last for hours, ideally leading to multiple, full-body orgasms… with or without an ejaculation.  The more secular forms of Red Tantra focus on erotic and romantic love, activating mostly the lower chakras; the primal, sexual and sensual energies of the root and sacral chakras. However, without the spiritual component to the practice, the upper chakras do not receive as much attention. The sacred forms of Red Tantra lead to a sense of euphoric oneness not only with your partner, but with the universe and God. The more secular forms of Red Tantra encourage couples to spend lots of time making love and exploring heightened levels of pleasure. However, this secular practice lacks the experience of spiritual love, and the universal connection that is the point of the sacred practice of Red Tantra.  

Pink Tantra refers to a heart centered path of tantra that blends many of the elements of White Tantra (generally without the tendency to embrace a life of celibacy) with some aspects of Red Tantra (without the need for a full time Tantric Partner to practice with.) Within the path of Pink Tantra, all of the chakras are acknowledged. However, there seems to be an emphasis on the importance of the heart; opening the heart chakra and healing the heart. Compassion, acceptance and forgiveness for others and for our self are central themes to this practice. Pink Tantra teaches us to cultivate love without attachment, ownership or expectation. With Pink Tantra love is seen as the impetus for healing and transformation.  

Pink Tantra is a great path to follow if you are currently single, struggling with your current relationship, or for those who adopt a more open love style such as polyamory.  Pink Tantra provides techniques and practices to help you heal from past heartaches, to improve your overall feeling of an emotionally balanced life and to connect with your true self.  Pink Tantra recognizes the importance of polarity between masculine and feminine energy. Practicing Pink Tantra will often result in you attracting a good potential mate who complements and resonates with your energy.  If you are already in a love relationship, this practice will ideally deepen and strengthen your partnership.  If your relationship was struggling, you may experience a rekindling of an emotional and passionate connection with your partner. However, this practice encourages personal wholeness. Sometimes this practice will enable someone to leave a partner who is abusive, or otherwise keeping them from being an authentic expression of their true self.    

Black Tantra is a path of tantra that incorporates magic and is clouded in mystery. Sometimes Black Tantra is referred to as Dark Tantra. Some have compared this path of Tantra to the black magic of voodoo. Black Tantrikas are often feared in India. I suspect that there is a lot of misconception of this path because it is not practiced openly. The teachings are intentionally well guarded to protect it from being misused by those with less than pure intentions.  Black Tantra has not been widely or openly practiced in the US. One aspect of Black Tantra that has made an impression on our Western consciousness is Sex Magic, which is a little like practicing “The Secret” with the powerful addition of using sexual energy to manifest your intentions.  Integrity and discretion are extremely important to the successful practice of Black Tantra. Generally speaking, it is extremely difficult to find anyone willing to teach you the most powerful techniques of Black Tantra without undergoing a vigorous screening and initiation process.  Here in the US, as well as many parts of Europe, we tend to be very skeptical of anything magical, mystical or anything that cannot be explained by our current understanding of science. If this magical Tantra is what you are seeking, it is possible to find it if you persevere, and are willing to follow the protocols of your teacher, but it tends to be a lot harder to find than the other types of Tantra, and unfortunately easily confused with an entirely different form of Tantra with a similar name that I will describe next.

Dark Tantra is sometimes mistakenly called Black Tantra by those who are not aware that the term Black Tantra has already been taken. This alternative meaning refers to a fusion of a Tantric Sex and BDSM.  I believe this path has emerged in very recent times. My understanding is that "Dark Tantra" was "invented" here in Western culture, I believe by people who really had a very limited or perhaps no understanding of the original meaning of Dark or Black Tantra. Basically Dark Tantra seems to be a secular sexual practice that doesn't have much to do with the spiritual practices of Tantra. I have heard some argue that there is a spiritual aspect to this Dark Tantra. I can imagine that this could be true for some individuals who are on a path of exploring their "shadow" or seeking to sink deeper into trust and surrender, but based on conversations I have had with people who claim to be exploring Dark Tantra, I believe that it is more often practiced as a form of self expression and sexual exploration than for the purpose of spiritual enlightenment.  

My Tantric Path is an eclectic one.  However, when it comes to what I teach it appears to fit most closely into the category of Pink Tantra. I do use some aspects of White Tantra, such as meditation and breath-work. I also introduce the teachings of Red Tantra, particularly to the couples who come to see me. However, most of my clients are either single or married to partners who do not support or participate in their practice of Tantra. This limits my ability to teach Red Tantra as it was intended. I am familiar with the concepts of sex magic, and have taught some workshops about how to use sex magic to manifest our desires; however, I do not consider myself to be an authority on the subject of Black Tantra.

I incorporate some aspects of "sensation play" into my sessions; however, I would not characterize what I do as Dark Tantra either. I am in charge of the session as the goddess (healer and teacher) and expect to be treated with reverence; however, I am not a Dominatrix by any stretch of the imagination. I fully support people's right to choose a life style such as BDSM if that is what they are into, or to experiment with whatever aspects of BDSM appeals to them as a form of self expression or to spice up their love life. However, it is not really my personal hot button or mission to teach this Dark Path of Tantra.  

My modalities of choice are love and light which resonates well with the heart centered practice of Pink Tantra. If you would like to speak with me about incorporating Tantra into your life, either via a verbal life coaching session or a hands on healing Tantra session, please take a look at my website and contact me ASAP.

Saturday, March 16, 2013

Root Chakra Sex Positions

Root Chakra Sex Secret:  Get out of your head and into your body.  Experiment with expressing your primal animal nature during sex. The following root chakra sex positions and illustrations (all original art  by myself) are taken from my new upcoming book, Seven Secrets of Sexual Savvy.
If you would like to schedule an appointment or be on a list to receive Seven Secrets of Sexual Savvy when it is available, please contact me.  
Rear entry sex positions seem particularly appropriate for the raw animal energy of the root chakra. I have noticed that quite often various animal names are used to describe these rear entry positions.   These positions may be used for either vaginal or anal penetration. Men, you will be in the driver seat for all of these rear entry positions.

Ladies, before he enters you from behind, make sure you are feeling ready.  When you maneuver to whatever position you are going to be in, do not let him jam into you unless you are really ready and aching for him to do so. Guide him to rub his mighty shaft against your flower (or rose bud) until you are ready for his thrusts. Finally, if this position is not hitting all the right spots for either of you, don’t be afraid to change things up mid-stream. It’s all about having fun.
 “Cow Style”:  Congress of the Cow” is a somewhat physically challenging rear entry position from the Kama Sutra, that I simply call “Cow Style”.  The woman stands with her legs slightly spread and knees locked or (bent slightly for comfort) and supports herself with her hands on the floor, in the bend-over position. (Don’t try this if you are not limber). A little more comfortable variation involves standing at the end of the bed or a table and bending over.  The woman’s upper body and arms supported by the surface. The man thrusts from behind holding onto the woman’s waist or hips. This way he can move her along with his momentum.
“Doggy Style”:  The ancient Chinese referred to this position as “White Tiger Jumps”.  However, I refer to this position by the name that it is most commonly known by in modern times.  The “Doggy Style” is a popular American classic rear entry position, similar to Cow Style, only the woman is on her hands and knees, with her arms supporting her.  The man kneels right behind her. Generally the man positions his knees outside of her lower legs.  The man may grab hold of the woman’s hips for support and to guide the momentum as he thrusts from behind.
“Tiger Style”:  The ancient Chinese called this position “Tiger Treads”.  It looks a little like a tiger crouching down to me as well.  You can easily change from Doggy Style to Tiger Style.  I recommend that the woman use a slightly wider knee stance than doggy style, both for the sake of her comfort and so that the man can get in closer between her legs. She should start on her hands and knees similar to the doggy style position, and then lowers her upper body. She should keep her hips raised high as she lowers her arms, chest and head down on the mattress.   Just as the previous positions, the man enters from the rear, but perhaps a bit more carefully. Be aware, having the upper body lower than the lower body changes the angle of entry and allows for deeper penetration.  In some cases the penetration may feel too deep, or cause pain if the sensitive cervix opening is struck. You may find that this position is particularly stimulating as more pressure is applied to the upper wall of the woman’s vagina.  

“Turtle Style”:  Finally I have also added a position that I have affectionately referred to as “Turtle Style” because you are low to the ground like turtles.  This position is very intimate with lots of body to body contact.  It is also easier on the knees than doggy style.  Recently I found that the ancient Chinese named a very similar position after an insect, “Dark Affixed Cicada”.  This is a rear entry position where the woman is on her belly. Her hips may be either flat or elevated.  The elevated hips variation may be more comfortable with a couple of pillows under her hips for support.  I suggest having pillows handy in case you want to transition from one rear entry position to another without losing the connection and momentum.  The woman may lay out flat with her upper body and head down if she likes.  The man enters from behind and then lowers his upper body on top of her back.  This feels like a full body hug or human blanket. The woman may also opt to have her upper body propped up a bit on her elbows. For this variation the man is also raised up a bit as well.  I like this variation because you can look at each other if you like, and the man may gently embrace her neck with his hands as the illustration shows.
Gentlemen, many women enjoy the exciting feeling of being “handled” by an assertive strong masculine lover. If you want to change to another position midway through the loving making session, keep this in mind. If you are feeling particularly in tune with your inner caveman, try this powerful move that I like to call “the flip”; grab hold of her body (in a supportive way) with your right arm reaching across in front of her, grabbing hold of her left hip with your right hand and place the other hand behind her, supporting the opposite hip.  Lift her up a bit off the bed, flip or roll her over and toss or lower her “gently” down onto the middle of the bed to switch to any number of face to face positions to finish, or whatever you prefer. The important thing to keep in mind is to experiment with being physical and primal. 
Root Chakra Chart
Sanskrit Name: Muladhara (means root)
Location:  Base of the spine
Endocrine Gland: Adrenal                                           
Demon: Fear
Color: Red
 Musical note: C
 Mantra: Lam
Sense: Smell
Element: Earth
Sanskrit Symbol Meaning: Ambition 
Focus: Survival instincts, sex drive and the physical body
Relationship:  Tribal relationships
Ritual: Stripping Ritual
Erogenous Zones: Feet, toes, the back of the knees, buttocks, anus, prostate
Sex Positions:  Rear Entry; Cow Style, Doggy Style, Turtle Style
Secret:  Get out of your head and into your body.  Experiment with expressing your primal animal nature during sex.