1. Make sex a priority. Let’s face it. Most of us
have very busy lives. In order to get the important things done, like it or
not, we really need to form a plan and follow a schedule. If we wait for the
perfect moment before we do something, many times things just don’t happen…
especially if it involves coordinating with another person. Sex is an extremely
valuable part of our lives; for our overall health, happiness and emotional
well being. It is also an import part of a healthy romantic partnership.
Neglecting our sex life can have a devastating effect on our relationship with
our partner and our entire life. So why don’t we spend a little more time
thinking about what a vibrant healthy sex life would look like for us? Sharing
fantasies and secret desires with your partner can be very intimate. Need some
fresh new inspiration? Try reading a sexy book or watching a sexy movie
together. Once you have a picture in mind of what really turns you on and what
you would like to do, why not communicate and strategizing ways to make it
happen? For information about a Love Life Coaching session with Goddess Jeanetta, over the phone or in person, click here.
2. Become sexually savvy. Sometime people are
discouraged and resentful because they want to have sex, but their partner no
longer does. There are many reasons why someone might lose interest is sex;
some of them situational, emotional, or medical, in nature. If your partner has
lost interest in having sex it is important to investigate why. For example, if
vaginal dryness is making sex painful, perhaps using a generous amount of
lubricant could make a world of difference. Sometimes people confide in me that
the sex is just not satisfying or that their partner doesn’t show any interest in
them or touch them unless they want sex. Your partner may really long for a
deeper connection with you; creating an emotional as well as a sexual intimacy.
However, it is hard to enjoy making love to someone who is insensitive to our
emotional or physical needs, or only seems interested in their own pleasure. A
sexually savvy lover is an attentive lover who takes the time to learn what
turns their partner on and delights in their partner’s pleasure. If you desire
to be a competent and attentive lover, you will make it a point to tune into
the emotional and sexual needs of your partner. You will show interest in them,
what they think and how they feel, and not just when you want to have sex with
them. You will ask your partner how and where he or she would like to be
touched and experiment with different techniques and sex positions. You will
look into your partner’s eyes, kiss them passionately, notice the expressions
on their face, listen to the words and sounds that come out of your partner’s
mouth, as well as what their body language is saying. Most importantly, you
will remember that sex is supposed to be fun. You will be playful, experimental
and creative, treat sex as an adventure, and your partner as your dearest
playmate and lover. A sexually savvy lover genuinely enjoys sex and is always
curious and open to learn new ways to make sex even better.
3. Make a date. Some people resist the
idea of carving out time specifically for sex, claiming that sex should just
happen spontaneous. However, spontaneity is seriously over rated. People may
assume they don’t need to make plans to be together because they live in the
same house and sleep in the same bed, but all too often their sex life begins
to suffer the moment they stop dating and start taking each other for granted.
Making a date does many things to improve your odds of having quality sex on a
regular basis. Making specific plans to be with our partner at a specific time
helps us to mentally set everything else aside, and really focus on each other.
Knowing that we have plans to be with our partner also allows us to prepare,
build sexual excitement and anticipation as we look forward to our special
“date”. Some of your dates may be romantic or fun dates where the point is to
spend time together doing something that gets you and your partner out of the
house, sharing an experience, and hopefully putting you both in a more playful
mood. However, you should also make specific plans to stay in for some sexy
time. Why not make a “sex date”? Put on some sexy lingerie, turn off the TV and
your cell phones, light a candle, put on a little romantic music and spend some
quality time making love. You may even spice it up now and then by going
somewhere special for a sexual encounter with each other. A little weekend
getaway or a rendezvous can go a long way to make you feel more romantic and
passionate. Personally I think we can (and should) have a love affair with our
partner.
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